I saw a saying on the back of a shirt that said, "I will do the things that other won't to live the life that others don't." In my life I have seen this be successful over and over. It has proven to be true in both my business and my married life.
To excel you have to put in just a little more effort, have a little more insight, work a few more hours, have a little more focus, want it just a little bit more and be willing to do what ever it takes to have the kind of life that you want.
In our professional careers that is what my husband and I have done in business together. We bought the houses that other wouldn't because they were ugly or dirty. We worked together to fix them up and rent them or sell them. We made money and built equity at a rate that others didn't because we were willing to do what other wouldn't or couldn't see.
We also did lawn care and landscaping. I remember one time when a friend said, "You'd never see me out on main street mowing lawns." At first it really bothered me. I felt that in some way that made me a social outcast in my circle of friends. Being seen on main street doing physical labor wasn't except-able to them. When I talked it over with my husband he pointed out that they might not want to be seen out on main street mowing a lawn but they also wouldn't be laying on a beach and enjoying a luxury resort for 10 day every year either.
Honestly, we worked longer hours than most people. After coming home from our jobs we went to work together in our yard care, apartment, & various other businesses that we ran together. We both contributed to house work and children raising. We made it fun and full of rewards. We worked hard but we also played hard. It was our family motto; "We work hard & play hard."
Making a marriage successful and satisfying takes the same kind of dedication. If you just sit around and let it run it's course, never putting time and effort into it your marriage will suffer maybe even die.
I am going to reword the saying I saw on the back of that T-shirt, "I will do the things in my marriage that others won't to have the kind of marriage that others don't."
Have you ever heard a friend or work colleague complain about their spouse or their marriage? Well, guess what? they aren't doing the things that they need to do to keep the fun, excitement and joy in their relationship. Are you?
Where is your focus? Does your spouse feel that your job, your hobbies, or the kids leave them in last place? Do you really listen when you spouse is talking to you? Do you remember things that they tell you? Do you know their favorite candy and drink? Do you know what satisfies them in bed?
You must be willing to spend time and energy being a devoted, loving, interested and caring spouse in order to have the marriage that you would like to have. You can be the one that never has anything to complain about your spouse. You can be the one with a smile on your face making everyone wonder why you are so happy.
Here are 10 things you can do today that will enhance you marriage and love life:
1. Forgive and forget.
2. Do something nice for your spouse. Something they would like you to do.
3. Be present in their conversations with you. Focus on what they are saying.
4. Listen and support, don't' criticize or give advice unless asked.
5. Discuss things with your spouse before discussing them with someone else.
6. Don't keep score.
7. Make your own rules together that work for your marriage and for you as a couple.
8. Tell, explain, retell, reexplain but don't hint.
9. Never put your spouse down
10. Provide for your spouses sexual and emotional needs.
The real question is; are you willing to do what it takes to have the marriage and life that you want. Marriage takes time, commitment, care, love, focus and thought. Most of what makes a marriage wonderful, joyful, exciting and long lasting are simple and easy. You just need to do them. Take you ego out of the equation and be there for your spouse like you were when you were dating.
You can be successful and accomplish what you want in your life and your marriage if you just "focus and act on it."
To excel you have to put in just a little more effort, have a little more insight, work a few more hours, have a little more focus, want it just a little bit more and be willing to do what ever it takes to have the kind of life that you want.
In our professional careers that is what my husband and I have done in business together. We bought the houses that other wouldn't because they were ugly or dirty. We worked together to fix them up and rent them or sell them. We made money and built equity at a rate that others didn't because we were willing to do what other wouldn't or couldn't see.
We also did lawn care and landscaping. I remember one time when a friend said, "You'd never see me out on main street mowing lawns." At first it really bothered me. I felt that in some way that made me a social outcast in my circle of friends. Being seen on main street doing physical labor wasn't except-able to them. When I talked it over with my husband he pointed out that they might not want to be seen out on main street mowing a lawn but they also wouldn't be laying on a beach and enjoying a luxury resort for 10 day every year either.
Honestly, we worked longer hours than most people. After coming home from our jobs we went to work together in our yard care, apartment, & various other businesses that we ran together. We both contributed to house work and children raising. We made it fun and full of rewards. We worked hard but we also played hard. It was our family motto; "We work hard & play hard."
Making a marriage successful and satisfying takes the same kind of dedication. If you just sit around and let it run it's course, never putting time and effort into it your marriage will suffer maybe even die.
I am going to reword the saying I saw on the back of that T-shirt, "I will do the things in my marriage that others won't to have the kind of marriage that others don't."
Have you ever heard a friend or work colleague complain about their spouse or their marriage? Well, guess what? they aren't doing the things that they need to do to keep the fun, excitement and joy in their relationship. Are you?
Where is your focus? Does your spouse feel that your job, your hobbies, or the kids leave them in last place? Do you really listen when you spouse is talking to you? Do you remember things that they tell you? Do you know their favorite candy and drink? Do you know what satisfies them in bed?
You must be willing to spend time and energy being a devoted, loving, interested and caring spouse in order to have the marriage that you would like to have. You can be the one that never has anything to complain about your spouse. You can be the one with a smile on your face making everyone wonder why you are so happy.
Here are 10 things you can do today that will enhance you marriage and love life:
1. Forgive and forget.
2. Do something nice for your spouse. Something they would like you to do.
3. Be present in their conversations with you. Focus on what they are saying.
4. Listen and support, don't' criticize or give advice unless asked.
5. Discuss things with your spouse before discussing them with someone else.
6. Don't keep score.
7. Make your own rules together that work for your marriage and for you as a couple.
8. Tell, explain, retell, reexplain but don't hint.
9. Never put your spouse down
10. Provide for your spouses sexual and emotional needs.
The real question is; are you willing to do what it takes to have the marriage and life that you want. Marriage takes time, commitment, care, love, focus and thought. Most of what makes a marriage wonderful, joyful, exciting and long lasting are simple and easy. You just need to do them. Take you ego out of the equation and be there for your spouse like you were when you were dating.
You can be successful and accomplish what you want in your life and your marriage if you just "focus and act on it."
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